How to avoid terror at the infamous Doorstep Scene:
Now, if you’ve been paying attention so far, there’s no reason for you to freak out. By this point in the date, you should already know how she feels about you, how comfortable she is with you, and whether or not she wants you to touch her. Ever.
If you don’t know, you either weren’t paying attention, or you are an example of what we have come to technically refer to as stoo-pid. Did you try to hold her hand at any point in the evening, put your arm about her, etc? (These actions are known as “feeling out the terrain” or “laying the groundwork”. But in actuality, they’re really more like applying for a permit to do either of those things.) Of course, she’s on a date with you, and so a certain level of non-hating can be assumed, however physical contact is NEVER something you should just blindly jump into. Unless you have a death wish, or you are very creepy.
So, if you have already lain groundwork, felt out territory, etc… ask yourself how she responded to that and then times it by about twelve. Did she ignore your attempt at interlocking digits? Or did she grab on willingly and initiate the hand caress maneuver that is so popular in the college set? Did she struggle, or create an embarrassing scene when your arm reached around her? Or perhaps, start screaming? (These last two will not have been in the “good sign” category, in case you weren’t already aware.) And so, if her reaction to these were on the tentatively favorable, accepting, or blatantly delighted category, feel free to proceed to the doorstep. With caution.
Keep in mind on the last leg of this journey a few little things. One, watch for body language signals. Two, look for lingering eye contact. That’s pretty much the Atilla of all “Kiss me” signals. And thirdly, try to weigh the girl’s personality and level of innocence against her image, and do not (I repeat, DO NOT) overstep the boundaries of what a first kiss would be to her. In other words, if she’s the timid librarian type, and you slobber all over her, game over. Or, if you think she’s a wild one and won’t mind getting thrown up against the door on a first date, think again. It doesnt’ just depend on what she wants (deep down, some do) but what she thinks and also (I HATE to mention this one) what her friends think. And her roomates. Because when she eventually goes inside the house (easy there, Tiger, save some for later) and tells her roomates, sisterfriends, or…mom? what went down, you do not want her to have to edit. Because you are a nice boy, and nice boys don’t go Brad Pitt’s version of Achilles on the first date. Mmmkay?
Last tidbits of advice for the conclusion of the door scene:
Just like any good Emily Post reader, don’t forget to thank her for the date, even if it does seem wildly inappropriate after having just had a biblical introduction. Your mom will be proud.
Also, if a kiss was had, you should probably send her at least a text message that night on your way home, or call her in the morning. Second thoughts and doubts usually (for girls) happen right after any kind of plunge is taken, and not before like you guys.
Last but not least, remember to drive safely home, and try not to run into anything please.